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  2016 Outline for "Elders meet with regular pioneers, special pioneers and field missionaries."

  by wifibandit in

  1. watchtower
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  pdf.

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  Shampoo, lather, rinse, repeat!
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  I just found out that my youngest brother committed suicide

  by SnakesInTheTower in

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  2. friends

  my middle brother called me a couple of hours ago.

  our youngest brother, josh, who was 38, was found by his friends in his apartment.

  he hung himself.

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  Snakes, I'm so sorry for your loss. Take all the time you need to greive. The only thing in life that seems to be true is impermanence. One day you will have fond memories of your brother, smile and celebrate his life. If your relationship was difficult, you can find forgiveness.

  In any event, sudden deaths of any kind are difficult. We don't always get the chance to say the things we would have liked to say. Sometimes the JW factor gets in the way of greiving, for example, when we are excluded from the funeral services. In that that case, you will find your own way to move forward. Trust the process. Learn kindness and forgiveness toward yourself and others. We all have our own struggle. Some of us have been where you are now, and we care.
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  heart troubles

  by zeb in

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  dear all,.

  my health took a beating over the years with stress from various sources, not a little from the wt; and dangerous areas of work involving fumes and so on.

  the arc also took its toll and i have had recently a heart attack.

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  (((Zeb))) Wishing you a speedy recovery!
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  Are Jehovah's Witnesses marriages even legit?

  by Joliette in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i ask this because of the circumstances behind why they get married and who they get married by.

  i know people say that they are really in love, they love jehovah, etc, but are these marriages even legit.

  i've talked to older jw's sister who are now widowed, some of them say that they were trapped in a marriages.

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  I'm speaking of marriages arranged by the organization-- only marry a believer in good standing who will be a "good spiritual head" or a good "spiritual, submissive wife" based on the org's monitoring and criteria. Check with the elders about your intended's standing in the congregation. Follow all the courting/chaperoning rules. Group dating only. Don't even sit next to a brother / sister at the KH unless you are engaged. Don't dance too close at congregation "get-togethers" (a thing of the past). No kissing other than maybe a peck on the cheek. Essentially, you don't choose your future partner yourself, the org does it for you. Really no different than marrying someone who you never met who was chosen by your family. JWs go into marriage blind. Been there, done that.
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  Are Jehovah's Witnesses marriages even legit?

  by Joliette in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i ask this because of the circumstances behind why they get married and who they get married by.

  i know people say that they are really in love, they love jehovah, etc, but are these marriages even legit.

  i've talked to older jw's sister who are now widowed, some of them say that they were trapped in a marriages.

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  Most, if not all JW marriages are arranged marriages, IMO.
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  I miss my family so much. I thought I was over it but I have breakdowns every few months thinking about my family

  by macys in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  as most of you know i have been shunned by my family for 2 years because of a photo posted on facebook of me kissing another girl at a party.

  the matter was not dealt with fairly but it is over now and i am 100% certain that jdub org is a cult.

  but i miss my family so much.

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  My in-laws are shunning my husband, our two children and their great grandson-- shunning three generations deep. They would be shunning me if they knew I was out. Are you certain you want to risk exposing your future children to that? Remember, too, that all visitation would have to be supervised to protect your children against recruitment efforts. There are ex-JWs who are shunned by their own children.
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  I Hate the Sound of the Word Jehovah

  by cofty in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  listening to clips of the latest manipulative video from the watchtower i realised how much i detest that word - jehovah.. sometimes i have thought it would be interesting to observe a meeting or part of a convention.

  every time i heard that word i would be unable to stay in my seat.. i have a visceral reaction every time i hear it.

  it stands for so much that i have contempt for.

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  For me it's about loaded language, an identifying mark of a cult. I have a visceral response to the word striving. My therapist used it in a positive way. I still connect it to the concept that 'everything is vanity and striving after the wind'. I explained it to him and asked him not to use the word anymore. I still have a lot of triggers even four plus years out.
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  2015-Information Needed For Visit Of Circuit Overseer-S-61-E!

  by Atlantis in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  no wonder the elder's are becoming burned out and stepping down!

  2015, information needed for visit of circuit overseer.

  .. click the green download button.. .. information needed for visit of circuit overseer .

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  "Names of brothers recommended for appointment or deletion. (The circuit overseer will obtain personal and spiritual information from each one’s Congregation’s Publisher Record card, and any pertinent history can be shared with him on Tuesday by the coordinator of the body of elders or another selected elder.—ks10 chap. 3 pars. 6-10)"

  
  Right, because "spiritualality" is defined by hours spent promoting a publishing/real estate flipping company.
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  Simple, basic manners would be a good start

  by stillin in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  the witnesses are really challenged socially.

  in their own little world, they seem oblivious to the niceties of saying thank you or that they are sorry for some minor wrong.

  these things help life go more smoothly in the real world, like a social lubricant.. i'm simply appalled at the fact that an elder's son, who was married more than a year ago, has never sent out thank you notes for all of the gifts that the congregation gave him for his wedding.

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  Many think leaving a tract is an appropriate tip, seldom a thank you card for a wedding or shower gift, and don't get me started on RSVPs. I can't tell you how many "get-togethers" I hosted where I had way to much food, because of a total lack of regard for making a commitment and keeping it. I would get a vague maybe or a verbal yes in passing at the hall or in service (even though I requested an RSVP by phone), and then way too many were no shows and made lame excuses. Sometimes they had the nerve to basically say they got a better offer. As a teen my daughter was particularly hurt by this rude behavior. Literally never a thank you other than on the way out the door, and they weren't shy about gathering up leftovers, and never thought of bringing a small gift for a host either! Grrrr!
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  Where are you from?

  by BeautifulMind in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i know we are all anonymous for our own personal reasons, so i understand if you would rather not say.

  but if you don't mind sharing that would be cool.

  i currently live in georgia, usa.

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  Sail Away

  Madison, Connecticut, USA